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If you cannot die for any woman, please, don't get married! I'm not just talking about physical death, I am also referring to death of ego, pride, selfishness, impatience, stinginess and yes, physical death, when necessary. We are talking about reality here, not fantasies from Hollywood movies! Jesus died for us. The peak of love is death, risk taking and selfless endeavors to give life to the one you love. Jesus said "A man lay down his life for his friends..." He wasn't a smooth talker/con artist, he prove it by dying on the cross for us. "Husbands, love your wife as Christ loves the church..." A man who is truly ready for marriage must be prepared to lay down his life for his wife. You are ready to do everything and anything godly to make this woman into what  God says she will be. You are willing to kill all these vices in you: hot temper, lust, selfishness, pride, anger, hatred, unforgiveness, smoking, drinking, womanizing, laziness, idleness, e...

Men have secrets and they keep them very tightly to their chest. A woman almost ran mad during her husband's burial when another woman showed up with his son she never knew from Adam. They had a blissful marriage and she never suspected her husband was having an affair. I'm not just talking about affairs. I'm also talking giving out money without your consent or extending secret hands to his family members. He can also have secret bank accounts, businesses and projects. No marriage can survive on secrets. However, a wife's attitude determines how much of himself her husband will reveal to her. If you want your husband to open all his heart to you, you must be mature, faithful, loyal, dependable and trustworthy. There are some women who have no secrets. Their friends know everything about their husbands including how many times they have sex per week. Learn to keep your husband's secrets secret. Avoid jealousy like plague. Your husband will never tell you he...

True love is not all about this "gooeey-gooeey" feelings, head in cloud 9, butterfly in stomach and staring into your beloved's eyes 24/7. Heavens knows I still have that "gooeey" feelings for my darling and honestly, his tall, slim frame never cease making my heart pant for him. I don't get bored being in his company. 11 years of knowing this cutie doesn't look like it, it's like...oh, it's like we just started! But love is also tough! There is something called tough love! That is what I want to talk about. The love that will last a life time will go through seasons and one of the seasons which most singles don't want to talk about, many married people avoid and most divorcees wished they had the wisdom to manage is the season of tough love! This is the season your partner stamps their feet and say, "NO honey, I'm not going to take this!" It's the season you go through your adjustment period; adapting to your spouse, cha...

I needed to use the scissors this morning and as I finished with it, I looked at it carefully and I saw that, the scissors models an ideal couple. Let's see some lessons every couple should learn from the scissors so that we can become better couples & build enviable homes. LESSON 1: The scissors is always in pairs and that's where its usefulness is. Once you see one part and the other part is not there, it is useless no matter how beautiful it is. The effectiveness of every marriage is lost when couples are not together. Separation and divorce destroy the effectiveness and usefulness of every marriage. Remember, 'united we stand, divided we fall'. Separation is not only when you separate physically & you are no longer living together. There are many couples who are together under the same roof but are spiritually, emotionally, sexually, financially, socially, etc separated. Are you sure you and your spouse are not separated in one of these ways? LESSON 2: ...

(This is for ladies. Guys' version is coming) I remember a friend of mine telling me how he used to solve his hunger problem in the days of poverty. He said he would go to any market where they display different kind of garri for sales. He would price it and take almost handful of each kind of garri and eat it, 'testing' to know if the garri is good. He said he can taste like four kinds of garri like that, and he won't buy any one. He would just give one excuse either by saying the garri is not sour enough or that he will buy it when he is returning. He said by the time he has eaten four handful of garri, he would just buy a sachet of pure water& drink and he would be okay for that moment. I teased him that why can't you do that if you are hungry and you wish to eat bread. Then he said 'Eben, you want them to kill me. The bread is inside a nylon oo and you can't take it without first paying and once you tear the nylon, it means​ you have paid for it o...

Great lessons are learned from small things that happen to us in life. Kindly read the below story as posted by a friend and I am sure you will be blessed by it: Last week I stood at the bus stop waiting for a vehicle to convey me to work. It was raining and there was no bus. I considered taking a bike but I also realized that wind would make it difficult for me to use an umbrella on top of a bike; so, since I didn't want to get drenched I opted to wait for a bus. Forty minutes later, there was no bus. People formed clusters according to their various bus stops. And as time passed the crowd grew in number. Suddenly I looked by my right and saw a private vehicle parked about twenty metres away loading passengers. Out of desperation I left my bus stop and walked towards it. On getting there I discovered that it wasn't going my route. As I turned back to return to where I formerly stood, I saw a bus parked there with people struggling to board. That bus parked where I stood abou...