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Liars are satan's representatives on earth! They are specialists at causing confusion and making you look stupid! They have the special capacity to drive you insane and eventually get you locked in a psychiatric hospital! Liars are people with dead conscience! They lie so much even the devil bow at the magnitude of their lies! Liars are fake! They wear fake smile, fake joy, give fake love, fake money and even fake sex! Each time you are with them you sense they are not really with you. They tell you they love you but their eyes and action says something else. He says he respects your opinion, praises you silly and do the exact opposite of what you advise him. She says you are the best guy she has ever met yet keeps flirting with better looking or richer guys. They don't give you straight answers when you ask them questions e.g . "Where  where you at 8am in the morning?" "Guess what?" He replied enthusiastically! "I just bought you a new pair of shoes...

A woman's self esteem can die an untimely death if she discovers men are not looking at her direction. There is a chemo high in being seen as desirable to men. No matter how spiritual a woman is, she wants to know she is capable of getting a man's testosterone burn on setting his eyes on her so she does everything in her power to ensure the front and back assets are in top shape. Full, firm breasts and well rounded buttocks are  a woman's dream. They know men like these and secretly salivates when they see a woman so endowed. To have small, flat, sagging or out of shape breasts and buttocks are a huge disaster so ladies are storming the market for push up bras, waist trainers and padded pants to boost their flat buttocks. If you are a single lady, listen to this carefully: You can't deceive a man forever! Sooner a later, he discovers the real you and the attraction is over! Listen! Don't become who you are not to attract any man. There is a man God has specifical...

Lately i have been angry over the fact that marriage is not recognized in Heaven. Auuuch it hurts me every time i think about it, the thought of having to live as best pals on earth and then go be like familiar Spirits in Heaven, 😃😃😃, to be honest i don't think it's fair on us at all, considering how much work we'll need to put in here to help each other get there, it's not fair jor, atleast God should allow us enjoy the Heaven we have been working hard for as husband and wife, even if it is for 5minutes, i will love to hug my wife in the presence of our Majesty and be like "Chocolate pie, thank you so much for helping me make this journey, with you the walk was easier", you know, something like that, and maybe kiss her small before God blows his whistle and change us back to brother and sister in Spirit.. 😃😃😃, who else agrees with me? This morning i was talking to God about this with a ...

It sometimes sound somehow to hear those who claim to be in love, yet they're violating what love is all about. Isn't that ignorance or foolishness? . Love is not a feeling, I have always voiced out this in my articles. Feelings will change overtime and cannot stand the test of time. Love is a decision, it's a responsibility and it requires an unflinching commitment. If you're not ready for all of these, please don't go into a love relationship. . More so, aside these, you need to love the right person otherwise your expression of love to the wrong person will ruin your life just as a permanent marker leaves a terrible stain on a white board. . It is often said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. If you don't know what love doesn't do you will do the wrong thing believing that you're in love. . First, LOVE IS NOT SELFISH. Can you read that again? Now read slowly. Anyone that wants you to please him or her always w...

When a man keeps quiet and gives up on you, it means, he has tried all his possible best to change you, nothing has come out if it. He is tired of wasting his energy nagging, shouting or screaming, he has decided to find an alternative to you, when he finds an alternative, he shuts down completely, no longer cares about you, or suddenly becomes passive, accepting every damn thing you do without complaining and does his things without acknowledging you or seeking your support! Don't wait until your husband shuts down or become passive before you work on your marriage. Pride and stubbornness will throw you out of marriage. If you are stubborn, rigid and opinionated, your marriage won't work! What is he complaining about, work on it. Men as a rule don't complain until they can't take the shit any more. Some women are just so stubborn! They won't just wake up till there is competition. They won't know their husbands are suffering until they see a strange lady wit...

There are postures couples must constantly maintain in their marriage to position their marriage for unending bliss. 1. COUPLES MUST WALK TOGETHER: Marriage is a journey. It is a long journey. The day you married each other, you have started a journey. Don't abandon your spouse to walk the journey alone. Hold each other's hand and walk together. Atimes, the journey might seem tiring and strength-exhausting , but if you keep your eyes on the goals and you keep cheering up one another, you will find it a sweet journey. 2: COUPLES MUST RUN TOGETHER: The reason why many homes are running down, is because couples are no longer running together. Marriage is like a race. Run it! If you don't run, you will ruin it. This race is not a competitive race between husband ad wife, but a complementary race . You are to both run so as to win the prize together. Don't be tired,run together with your spouse. Parenting is one of the races to run in marriage. Don't abadoned your spo...

According to the bible we are exhorted and admonished not to deceive ourselves but there are signs and symptoms of deceiving oneself which is as follows. 1. When you preach to people not to do a particular thing but your life is contrary to what you have preached to them, knowing fully that whatever you are telling others to do without you doing it will only impress their head but not impact their hearts. 2. When you only read bible because you are invited to come and minister in a place. Dear acclaimed man of God you cannot go far in life and ministry if you read bible only to prepare for sermon but not personally sit down to study the bible to learn, equip and grow in your knowledge of God. 3. When you are full of religion activities but you are not spiritual. What a tragedy of life to be active in church and not alive in Christ. Your spirituality in God is far better than your religiosity of life. 4. When your pursuit is after temporal and material things and standing in the pos...

Abstaining from sex as a man in today's world is not a simple feat. From the moment you wake up, you're overwhelmed with nakedness from your TV to your church and from the bus stop to your office. I know how many half-naked women I encountered on Monday alone. My own path wasn't made any easier since I was one of those who explored their sexuality early. At the time I didn't know Christ and I obviously enjoyed the thrill of it. Sex is fantastic and unless you're experiencing some issues of heart or mind, you're going to want to keep at it. Which is why, when I wasn't doing it at a point (no available babe that I liked) or not making out, I resorted to pornography to fill the void. I would surf the net for it, masturbate and start all over again. At a point, I was doing it up to four times a day! I was heavily addicted to it. "Reality" wasn't any better. I couldn't even go two steps without seeing a woman I wanted in bed. I would go off fee...

I always say your courtship time is a time to engage your MOUTH and not your GENITALS. During our courtship, I was enjoying moment with my husband and he said "Esther what is your DREAM HOME?" I paused for a short while to gather my thoughts. "I love to have a very spacious sitting room with high ventilation, decently furnished with a touch of class. A cozy bedroom, a very big compound, a swimming pool, and a prayer room" Laughing He smiled faintly. "I want a home that is filled with love and peace, a home like an altar where God ministers to lives, a home where the door will be open to the needy, where the poor can come for a meal even if it is my last, I want to have a guest room where any minister of the gospel/ missionaries can lodge in when they come to Shagamu for their ministerial assignment and the brethren can come to have their retreat" Chai! Wow! My husband dream home is something breath taking for me. I felt so shallow in my thinking. I wasn...

Men, today I want us to discuss about PREGNANCY. Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to state of health of the mother and unborn child? Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes. It's just 9 months, not like it's forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It's a seed planted by you germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it. Pregnancy is preparation to welcome a new member into the family. Pregnancy is a journey fun filled, amazing etc. Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common. ■Once in a while she would nag ■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread ■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make yo...

Marriage is to help you become better and becoming better means CHANGING and GROWING. If you are not ready to change and grow, marriage is not for you, period! They should accept you in courtship with all your ugly past, strengths and weaknesses, that acceptance made them take you to the altar but we are not static human beings, we must keep changing for the better if we must have a good marriage and fulfil our destiny! Stubbornness is the leading cause for divorce. The refusal to adapt to your spouse and take to simple correction. Here are some things your spouse won't take from you, you either change or kiss your marriage goodbye! 1. POOR HYGIENE is a huge turn off in marriage. Not bathing at the right time, smelling all day, refusal to shave and mouth odour are romance killers! 2. FAT: If your partner didn't marry you fat and they detest fat, you will do well to shed that weight. You will constantly turn them off and romance will end up in the dustbin. 3. WASTE: No sane man...

Laziness kills marriage · Suspicion kills marriage · Lack of trust kills marriage · Lack of mutual respect kills marriage · Unforgiveness kills marriage (Forgiveness is not optional but mandatory) · Arguments kills marriage · Keeping secrets from your spouse kills marriage · Every form of infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc) · Poor communication kills marriage . Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect. · Relating more with your parents than your spouse kills marriage · Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. · Nagging kills marriage · Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage · Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage · Being too independent minded kills marriage · Love for party, money and spending/partying kills marriage · Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or siblings kill...

It's possible to meet the man of your dreams, the problem is, he is a full fledged married man. You know you shouldn't be feeling the way you do but you seem completely helpless. Each time you see him or think about him, you wish you are in his arms, completely secured in his love. You are so madly in love with him, you can't imagine how life will be without him. Alright sis., I perfectly understand what you are going through but you need to put your brain in check. You are losing control of your emotions and you should regain your sanity before you do something completely insane! Dating a married man is not as sweet as Hollywood makes it looks. It's full of pain, regret, betrayal, emotional roller coaster, depression, oppression and you may one day commit suicide that is if you were not murdered! What are the things you need to do to call your senses back if you seem helplessly in love with a married man? Know this: 1. HE IS A MARRIED MAN: He has a first love -his wi...

The late king of my community had ten wild dogs. He used them to torture and eat any of his servants who made a mistake. One of the servants gave an opinion which was wrong, and the king didn’t like it at all. So he ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs. The servant said, “I served you for ten years, and you do this to me? Please give me ten days before throwing me to those dogs!” The king agreed. In those ten days, the servant went to the guard who looks after the dogs and told him he would like to serve the dogs for the next ten days. The guard was baffled but agreed, and the servant started feeding the dogs, cleaning for them, bathing them, and providing all sorts of comfort for them. When the ten days were over, the king ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs for his punishment. When he was thrown in, we were all amazed to see the ravenous dogs only licking the feet of the servant! The king, baffled at what he was seeing, said, ”What has hap...

Yesterday as I watched the National Geographic Channel, I came to learn of the Fish called The Electric Eel for the first time, actual name is Electrophorus electricus. The fish is commonly found in the Amazon and generally in Fresh Waters. In the narration of the documentary, Electric Eels are mostly blind although they are not born blind. To me they are such beautiful creatures and I was wondering how come they are blind? I then read about them and came to understand that these animals have three pairs of abdominal organs that produce electricity as a form of defensive mechanism against predators. Whenever the animal is under attack, it activates an electric field of up to 860 Volts (that is nearly 4 times the 220V electricity supplied to our homes) to electrocute its attacker. The Eel also requires rising to the surface of the water every 10 minutes in order to take in Oxygen before going back under the water. Due to this routine, the fish has developed a mindset that it is vulnera...

True love is not all about this "gooeey-gooeey" feelings, head in cloud 9, butterfly in stomach and staring into your beloved's eyes 24/7. Heavens knows I still have that "gooeey" feelings for my darling and honestly, his tall, slim frame never cease making my heart pant for him. I don't get bored being in his company. 11 years of knowing this cutie doesn't look like it, it's like...oh, it's like we just started! But love is also tough! There is something called tough love! That is what I want to talk about. The love that will last a life time will go through seasons and one of the seasons which most singles don't want to talk about, many married people avoid and most divorcees wished they had the wisdom to manage is the season of tough love! This is the season your partner stamps their feet and say, "NO honey, I'm not going to take this!" It's the season you go through your adjustment period; adapting to your spouse, cha...

Nothing makes a woman less attractive like chasing a guy! It's a huge turn off! Men hate it, I mean genuine men. Users may like you because you are at their beck and call. If they say jump, you ask, "how high?" Stripping you naked is very easy for them and having sex with you is something they find very easy to achieve. You can't say no because you are the one chasing them and the fear of losing them made you have so many abortions you lost count! No matter how madly you are in love with a guy, never show it, it cheapens you and gives the guy an edge. He can order you around, snob you, turn you into his slave and make fun of you, he will eventually dump you because he doesn't really value you. Men like to chase the woman they admire, I mean REAL MEN. Some lazy guys don't like to find their wives. They have low self esteem and are too timid to approach a woman and marry her properly. These are not men, they are babies in trousers! I'm not talking about t...

Nothing makes a woman less attractive like chasing a guy! It's a huge turn off! Men hate it, I mean genuine men. Users may like you because you are at their beck and call. If they say jump, you ask, "how high?" Stripping you naked is very easy for them and having sex with you is something they find very easy to achieve. You can't say no because you are the one chasing them and the fear of losing them made you have so many abortions you lost count! No matter how madly you are in love with a guy, never show it, it cheapens you and gives the guy an edge. He can order you around, snob you, turn you into his slave and make fun of you, he will eventually dump you because he doesn't really value you. Men like to chase the woman they admire, I mean REAL MEN. Some lazy guys don't like to find their wives. They have low self esteem and are too timid to approach a woman and marry her properly. These are not men, they are babies in trousers! I'm not talking about t...

We were two in my room at school. We attended same fellowship. We were workers together at the fellowship. Time to time, the pastor comes around to pick my room mate for visitation and evangelism. It was getting too frequent , and I will always imagine, where is the pastor's wife? Where are the brothers at the church? Where  are the other sisters at the church. Why must it be this same room mate of mine everyday and every time. She was neither a member of evangelism nor visitation unit. She was a choir member. A little time after that, the sister told me she was receiving the pastor as her husband in her dreams. Ah! What? A married pastor with kids! I told her straight a way, the dreams came from the pit of hell. Revelations that are against the scriptures are not from God. You can't receive an already married man as your husband. Some times after that, God revealed to me what was happening between the pastor and my room mate. I started having series of revelations about t...

*_Please note that you can avoid adultery. It is within your power to do it, if you really mean it._* *_Carelessness is one of the major cause of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error. So follow the following simple rules you will never fall into adultery._* *_1: Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions._* *_2: Never be with anybody of opposite sex at the time your spouse must never know you are there._* *_3: Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody, they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you._* *_3: Be proud to use your wedding ring outside, let them know you are married and proud to be._* *_5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/husband you visited._* *_6: Avoid keeping secrets ...