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These ears have heard some stupid statements like "A man can ask for sex in courtship, it is the woman that must learn to say NO!" That is rubbish! So a woman is not permitted to ask for sex and when she asks, do the guys say NO? They pounce on her, rape her silly and tell the world she seduced them! Nonsense! Rubbish!! Stupid fallacy!!! Why must a man ask for sex in courtship? Why must you open your mouth and ask for what belongs to your elders? Is your thinking so low, you must ask the poor lady to let you slap her father in the face by stealing sex from his daughter without paying her dowry? Has your self esteem gone so down that you stooped below every form of self dignity to ask for what is not yours and lose your respect before her forever? Why must you ask for sex in courtship, are you even born again at all? I don't understand how some so called Pastors, Bishop, Evangelists and self acclaimed Prophets will open their mouths wide and ask their fiancee for sex in ...

Laziness kills marriage · Suspicion kills marriage · Lack of trust kills marriage · Lack of mutual respect kills marriage · Unforgiveness kills marriage (Forgiveness is not optional but mandatory) · Arguments kills marriage · Keeping secrets from your spouse kills marriage · Every form of infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc) · Poor communication kills marriage . Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect. · Relating more with your parents than your spouse kills marriage · Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. · Nagging kills marriage · Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage · Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage · Being too independent minded kills marriage · Love for party, money and spending/partying kills marriage · Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents...

A lady informed me one day that she was coming to pay me a visit. I told her she's welcomed and that I would be expecting her. Then she said, 'I will be sleeping over o'. I replied no problem, that I will make arrangement with one of my fellowship sisters or my neighbour so she could put up with any of them for the night. She said she wouldn't like that. Then I asked to know what she wanted, she said she would like to stay in my room. I told her it won't be possible because I don't allow ladies pass the night in my room except they are in group of two, three, etc. in which case I will leave the room for them. She told me it doesn't matter now and that she's not having any ulterior motive; and that she will ensure nothing happens. I replied her and said, it really does matter. Number one reason is that I am representing Christ in my environment. Will Jesus be in the same room overnight with a lady He is not married to? Let assume nothing happened...

You mean your child is not doing well in school, and its getting at you really badly? Quite unfortunate! Isn't it? From years of experience as an educator a consultant; there are lots of seemingly harmless reasons why students don't do well in school. They look so simple and incapable of wrecking havoc; but that's exactly what they do. Parents often get confused not being able to readily 'cough out' reasons why their children are not doing well in school. The following are some of the reasons why your children are not doing well in school: 1. Your child goes late to school. 2. He doesn't do assignments as a custom. 3. Your child is a television addict (your television is his best friend) 4. You are always too quick to put up a defence for your child. 5. Your child is a spineless lazy bone. 6. You give all manner of excuses for your child's laxity. 7. You don't allow your child to face the consequences of not doing the right things. 8. You accept whatever...

When he was a little boy his uncle called him “Sparky”, after a comic-strip horse named Spark Plug. School was all but impossible for Sparky. He failed every subject in the eighth grade. He flunked physics in high school, getting a grade of zero. He also flunked Latin, algebra and English. And his record in sports wasn’t any better. Though he did manage to make the school’s golf team, he promptly lost the only important match of the season. Oh, there was a consolation match; he lost that too. Throughout his youth, Sparky was awkward socially. It wasn’t that the other students disliked him; it’s just that no one really cared all that much. In fact, Sparky was astonished if a classmate ever said hello to him outside of school hours. There’s no way to tell how he might have done at dating. He never once asked a girl out in high school. He was too afraid of being turned down… or perhaps laughed at. Sparky was a loser. He, his classmates...

Men are logical, women are emotional. This will create regular argument and ultimately divorce if you do not know how to handle your differences. Some battles in relationships are plain unnecessary and a pure waste of precious time and energy. Don't tell a man you don't feel like doing what he asks you to do. That simply doesn't make sense to him. Give him one or two points, he will think about it, weigh the pros and cons and give you concession if need be. For instance, don't tell a man you don't feel like saving some money, that's plain stupid! Are you a spend thrift or a waster? Rather tell him, you need to do some budget, plan where the money should go and keep the differences as savings. Don't quiz the hell out of a woman if she doesn't feel like talking. She must be going through some emotional turmoil. Just hold her hands or let her be if you are courting but if married, pull her into your arms and cuddle her, that's all she needs. When she ...

To young guys & young ladies who are about stepping into relationship adventure, please note this! It is not compulsory you must have an Ex. It is not an achievement that you have so many Exs before you will finally settle down to marry. Yes, situations & circumstances beyond you can cause such to happen, but when you begin to count 10 to 15 exs you dated and dropped because of your unbridled desire, sexual adventure, materialism or looking  for perfect guy/lady before you will  finally settle for one, it is a bad sign.   The way some boast of this 'my ex, my exs, all my exs, they make it look like, you must have serial of broken relationship before you can finally settle down in marriage. It is possible to be in love with just one lady/one guy and you both build a solid courtship and end up marrying each other. Don't let many guys/ ladies refer to you alone as their ex.  I just feel like telling you this. Accumulating Exs as if you are accumulating...