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The world is full of women but only few wives". Many women don't know that being a woman does not necessarily mean you can be a wife to a man. There are certain qualities that qualifies a woman to be a good wife to the husband she's married to. Some men break up their relationships or marriages because they later found out that the woman they are living with is not yet a wife. The wedding will give you the title wife, but to your husband the things you do will determine whether he's married to a woman or a wife. This is why the bible says  " he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord", meaning you can get a woman and still not find a wife. Looking at the acronym of the word wife, we'll discover certain characters that makes every woman a good wife for her husband. WIFE W : WISE - Every wife is a wise woman like Abigail. She advices her husband about many things that will affect their future, family, children, finances and the...

One sure sign your relationship is sick is having nothing to talk about whenever you are with your partner. If you must always have sex to feel close to your partner, you need to end the relationship fast and get your bearing! Marriage is more than sex! A successful marriage is about friendship. You are not going to spend the rest of your life rolling in sheets unless you have very serious spiritual problems. Successful people have more to think about than concorting sexual images and looking for who to dump their passion on! You marry to fulfil destiny and your partner is to help you attain your highest dream. Most people are pathetic failures because they have nothing else in their head except grope, masturbate and roll in the dark! Marry your best friend! Someone who believes in you and is ready to do all in their capacity to help you be all you wanna be. Marry someone who believes in you. Marry someone you enjoy talking to. Marry someone you can freely be yourself around. Marry...

There is no big deal marrying a man younger than you or a woman who is older. When I wrote a short article on that very recently, some singles' comments just make me laugh. Some claim they want a man who is more MATURE. That statement is immature because you do not know what maturity is. Maturity has nothing to do with age! I've met men in their 50s who utter nothing but absolute foolishness! They lack wisdom, grace, tact, discipline, a sense of purpose, direction and are disasters going every where to happen! They are irresponsible, indisciplined and are everything a woman wants to disrespect. I have met men in their twenties who speak with wisdom, are disciplined, know when to talk and when not to, have a sense of purpose, know exactly where they are going and are very responsible. I have seen husbands far older than their wives and the women hate showing them respect and I've seen those with older wives who treat their husbands like the king of the universe. What mak...

Hi, my name is Oyinloluwa Adeyemi-Levites. I am an advocate of "no sex before marriage ". My husband and I courted for 3 years. That was a long time to court someone you love so much that it tends to create tempting moments. We used to see about 3-4 days per week. So it was a short-distance-relationship, if any word like that exists. LOL! We started our relationship with marriage in mind, and we weren't in to test the waters or see if we'll work or not (in this day and age, there is no time for games). As born again Christians, having the same principles and convictions on sex before marriage and abstinence made setting boundaries very easy. However, you know the saying that it is easier said when you're not in the situation yet. Our friendship and love grew greatly, and so did the chemistry between us, so much so that our boundaries had to be reviewed and improved upon regularly because it seemed like the sexual charges that we both carried were explosive enou...

It is commonly said that most people prepare for wedding instead of planning for their marriage. Your plan for your marriage and family should determine how your wedding should go. FINANCE "Owo se pataki o" meaning "money plays an important role in marriage" Living a fake life during courtship will get you into trouble especially brothers. Don't present yourself to your fiancee like you have it all together. Be real. Don't hire a car because you want to visit/impress your fiancee, I should add that sisters too shouldn't borrow fancy wears and accessories. Just be yourself. Both of you, not the brother alone, should Declare your ASSET & LIABILITIES in courtship. Be open about your income inside courtship. In what way can fake life get you into trouble? If your fiancee doesn't know what you earn and you don't share your pains with her about your finances; there will be trouble for your wedding and marriage. She won't help you manag...

Your heart is too precious to be broken by anybody. Protect it all cost. The Holy Book says, "Guard your heart with all diligence...." so that one child of Satan will not make a mess of your life. Be smart in your relationships, don't allow anybody damage you! Hear God and hear Him well before you propose to anybody and accept proposal. If you use your little brain to pick a partner and lock God out of your decision, you will hurt very badly. Getting God involved at the beginning is one smart choice you will make. you save yourself from headache, pain and heartbreak. Let your partner know your past, weaknesses, strengths, expectations, vision, dreams and goals as early as possible so as to know whetner you flow together and they accept you for who you are; if not, pack your bags and quit the relationship before your emotions get tangled. The longer you stay in a relationship, the harder it is to quit! Use your head not your emotions when you are entering into relation...

I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I'm not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue. Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about sex. Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself). From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling hor...

Someone sent me this: "Good evening Ma. This question is based on what I saw in your post, and the answer to it would really help me as a believer. You said you courted for five years, please Ma what was your Emotional feelings towards your spouse like In those five years?" She wanted to know whether we had high sexual chemistry and how we were able to handle it. Some singles have directly or indirectly asked me similar question, they were really astonished we courted that long, yet had no sex. I'm always apalled, surprised, flabbergasted and highly disappointed in today's youths when they talk about the difficulty they face in handling sexual temptations and how it was difficult to say NO to their sexual partners. Some had sex so much, they could not count the number of abortions they had for their fiance. it makes me wander whether all they are born to do with their lives is have sex. Listen, there is no big deal courting for 5 years without sex, nothing spec...

Achieving your dreams isn’t easy, you have to brave and be willing to stand strong to adversity and criticisms. Jumia Travel, the leading online travel agency, shares 7 things you should ignore to help you stand strong and achieve your dreams. 1. *DIFFICULTIES* Rather than dwelling on difficulties, think of solutions. Remember that the time wasted dwelling on difficulties, can be invested in contemplating solutions to bring you out of difficulties. Contemplating solutions helps move you forward, while dwelling on difficulties keeps you stagnant. 2. *CRITICS* There is a popular belief that there are good and bad critics. The good ones criticize constructively, the bad ones criticize destructively. However, the truth is, the input of individuals who know nothing about your dreams and abilities is useless. You should therefore ignore these critics, and listen instead to the input of those who not only know about your dreams and abilities, but also believe in you. Their co...

Whenever some women describe what they call love and how "lucky" they are to have their partners, I always feel like flogging them! A man slaps you hard in courtship, rapes you and steals your money you say you are in love! He shames you in public, humiliate you in private and tells you loud and clear he doesn't love you yet you go on your knees begging him with tears never to leave you. What? What the hell do you think you are doing? Abuse in marriage does not start in marriage, it begins in courtship but people are so blind by infatuation and low self esteem that they drag the relationship along, senselessly hoping they would one day change their partners. You can't change a man who doesn't love you. Sooner or later, he jilts you and leaves you broken hearted and emotionally shattered! Please ladies value yourself. Stop tieing your life around a man. You don't need a man to be happy and fulfilled, you need God. You need to respect, love and value yoursel...

With the rate at which Pastors and their wives are filing for divorce, I think we need to do something fast or else, the church may soon be filled with divorced Pastors and congregations. If the Pastor can get a divorce, why can't the members? I spoke recently to an estranged Pastor's wife and her complain like the complain of other unhappily married Pastors' wives is that her husband had many "strange" women around him and when she complained, he saw her as jealous. He eventually sent her packing with her children and filed for divorce. Case closed. I'm not here to judge anybody. It is hell going through divorce and no one needs any preaching or correction during this period. I will use this medium to advise single ladies dating Pastors, buckle your belt. It is not enough to be seen as the First Lady in the church. You will be seen as a spiritual mother who should "accomodate" all the "sisters" flocking around your husband. Your husba...

Friendship with your EX can't continue after marriage. If they missed you so bad they should have married you instead of dumping you. Now that you are married, they should please step aside while you enjoy your marriage! Some EX lovers are stubborn! They suddenly wake up, realized all the goodies they missed and start hunting for you in the name of friendship. If you are naive, you fall for their crap, go back to soothing them and helping them where their spouses have failed. Stories abound of married people having affairs with their EX. Adultery is the end result of that folly. Emotions don't die. All the feelings you have for all your EX lovers haven't disappeared. They are simply surpressed. They are there, lieing dormant silently, noiselessly until the object of tne emotional attraction shows up and there is an explosion! You suddenly discover you have hidden passion that can go haywire for an EX while still under your husband's roof or while you are married to ...