SICK LOVE!

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Whenever some women describe what they call love and how "lucky" they are to have their partners, I always feel like flogging them!

A man slaps you hard in courtship, rapes you and steals your money you say you are in love! He shames you in public, humiliate you in private and tells you loud and clear he doesn't love you yet you go on your knees begging him with tears never to leave you. What? What the hell do you think you are doing?

Abuse in marriage does not start in marriage, it begins in courtship but people are so blind by infatuation and low self esteem that they drag the relationship along, senselessly hoping they would one day change their partners. You can't change a man who doesn't love you. Sooner or later, he jilts you and leaves you broken hearted and emotionally shattered!

Please ladies value yourself. Stop tieing your life around a man. You don't need a man to be happy and fulfilled, you need God. You need to respect, love and value yourself and the man who appreciates you and genuinely loves you will come your way.

My siblings were afraid I would never marry when I was single because I was selective. I didn't jump at every proposal. I had male friends/admirers but I wanted the best. I married 3 months short of my 30th birthday. Younger cousins had married years ahead of me but it didn't disturb me one bit.

Infact, I so much enjoyed the freedom of serving God, being single and just being contented with my life I was in no hurry to settle down with "just any man."

You can only marry once. Do not settle down with a man who does not value you all in the name of "love." May the Lord grant you understanding.
© Seun Oladele 2015

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