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Dating is no more a new phenomenon amongst the youths of our generation. It's a trend that teenagers cannot wait to experience; if as a youth you don't have a boy/girlfriend your friends will probably assume something is wrong with you, most girls cannot wait to enter into higher institution of learning where they'll have enough freedom to do what they like. Well, I will like to ask you why it's usually kept secret from biological and spiritual parents if it's okay to date? Note that ''Nearly half of teenage girls who have been in a relationship say they have been victims of verbal, emotional, physical or sexual abuse by their boyfriends.'' Most of them are still regretting loosing their virginity the way and to whom they did! Most guys call it "experimenting". I have seen many youths argued that dating may not lead to sex (which it's not sinful) but I insist that dating is just like 'hookups' which either in the long or sho...

If you want to keep your virginity till marriage or stay off sex completely till you get married, beware of these lines or men will pass you from bed to bed like football. Innocent ladies including naive married women usually fall into sexual traps through these lines: 1. YOU ARE TOO FRIGID: They tell you to loosen up, learn to hug, learn to give  a "godly" brother a peck on the cheek. You should socialize and be more friendly. It's a bait to make you loose your guard little by little and they keep asking for more till they eventually have sex with you and dump you neat! Which useless hug does he want, for what reason? If he wanna hug, he should hug his mother, sisters, male friends or wife! Some men know virtually the breast size of all the females around them by hugging tightly and feeling what they should not feel! If you need to hug and peck, go hug and peck fellow females sisters! Not hugging guys doesn't mean you are frigid, don't let any guy deceive you!...

It is commonly said that most people prepare for wedding instead of planning for their marriage. Your plan for your marriage and family should determine how your wedding should go. FINANCE "Owo se pataki o" meaning "money plays an important role in marriage" Living a fake life during courtship will get you into trouble especially brothers. Don't present yourself to your fiancee like you have it all together. Be real. Don't hire a car because you want to visit/impress your fiancee, I should add that sisters too shouldn't borrow fancy wears and accessories. Just be yourself. Both of you, not the brother alone, should Declare your ASSET & LIABILITIES in courtship. Be open about your income inside courtship. In what way can fake life get you into trouble? If your fiancee doesn't know what you earn and you don't share your pains with her about your finances; there will be trouble for your wedding and marriage. She won't help you manag...

Some ladies know how to cook but their presentation is ☹......nothing to write home about . I wish I could just talk to only females here without our brothers seeing it. ☺ Sis,  *(Married)* After making dinner,  dish out the food in a nice way  and right proportion , Don't serve Him as if you are making a  sacrifice to some gods!!!  It doesn't have to be luxurious,  simple and nice can do it. If you are serving Rice,  beans and fried plantains,  don't put everything together...  Put them in a separate dish,  let him do the combining on his plate. Have a shower please where necessary,  wash off that sweaty and greasy skin... Smell nice . You are married and your body is exclusively yours. Stop going to bed in the dress you wore cooking in the kitchen....  Get a night dress. And please wear those dresses , as in OH my!!! I don't want to talk o Before you say my mouth is not born again . I mean that gown y...

This was a teaching & prayer live Ministration I did in one of our TRUTH FOR SINGLES SUMMIT & also on a Watsapp group (African relationship pendulum​).  I know it will bless someone here.  Read and blessed. 7 FEARS :  1. The fear of been rejected: There are many guys that have inner fear of being rejected by ladies. Something keeps telling them, no lady will accept your proposal, don't bother to propose. And this fear has kept many guys mute! Their mouth are crippled, they can't express their intentions to any lady they have feeling and leading of God for. Just because they have fear they will be rejected. Some ladies too have the fear of being rejected. Something tells you, nobody likes you, no body loves you, something keeps telling you, nobody will come and propose marriage to you. You have the fear that, they will reject your face, your body stature, your height, etc 1) The fear Late marriage: Many singles have the fear of getting married late, Esp...

In psychology, it has been established that a child's personality would have formed by the age of 5. This gives insight into how to relate with a child and as he/she grows up. 1. Be a parent to the child between birth and 12 years of age. This is when the spankings, etc can come in. Whatever you don't correct at this age, forget about correcting later. Correct their perceptions, their orientations, etc. Be available to physically incorporate values into them. 2. From the age of 13-19, you are to be a friend to them. Many parents want to do core parenting at this age range. If you didn't achieve that earlier, you may not succeed outrightly here. Note that one significant factor that can help the child at this phase is the God-factor. If they find God at this age or earlier, they will likely stick to Him forever. 3. From age 20 and above, the best you can be to the 'child' is a mentor. At this phase, be an inspiration to him/her. Let your life inspire him/her. ...

Don't marry me out of pity. Don't marry me because you don't have any other option. Don't marry me because you don't want to break my heart. Don't marry me JUST because God said! Marry me because you also said. Don't marry me JUST because Parents or Pastor said. Marry me because peace said, purpose said, attraction said, compatibility said. Marry me because you like and love me spirit, soul and body. Marry me because you consider me as attractive to you. Marry me because you are sure we are compatible and we are ready to adapt to each other. Don't marry me if you will you not submit to me. Don't marry me if you are not ready to love me as Christ loved the church. Don't marry me because I am from your tribe or because we have things in common. Don't marry me because people advised and counselled you to do so. Don't marry me if you are merely tolerating me. Don't marry me if you are not or will not be proud of me before t...

Obedience is not automatic, it is learnt. We learn with a humble heart and mostly through suffering. Yes, people don't change until they hurt enough! Even Jesus had to LEARN obedience through suffering so there is no accidental obedience. If you have not been obeying your husband, you've shown your human side but not without consequences. God made the man the head of the home to help you curtail excesses and knock you into shape. He is there to help you do things the right way and fulfill your destiny on earth. That is why I always encourage single ladies to marry a man whom they respect and who believes in their vision. You can't fulfil your destiny by behaving anyhow, talking anyhow and dressing anyhow. It's your husband's job to teach and correct you on daily basis. If you obey him and take to his correction, you will both be happier for it. Your husband sees things you don't see. He knows the way you dress can land you in trouble. He knows some of your f...

Some singles have asked me questions about spiritual spouse. Some are having sex in the dream, wedding in the dream, children in the dream, etc. Spiritual spouses are real and their effects can be seen and felt in real life. A lady told me no lady in her family is in her husband's house, she herself is over 30 without any suitor.  I asked her series of questions to get to the root of the matter. It is just recently she told me she's been having wedding with an unknown man in the dream. If you see yourself constantly, regularly wearing wedding gown, wedding suit, wedding ring with an unknown man/woman, or a known person, either the one you always fantasize about in real life or not (spiritual spouses wear known people's image to get to your heart), you are dealing with a spiritual spouse! If you constantly have sex in the dream and you release your sperm, my brother, you need serious prayers! If as a lady, you are always having sex whether with a known or unknown person,...

I saw a married woman recently and my jaw dropped! She wore a spaghetti without bra. Her nipples were embossed on the spaghetti and I must confessed she had a pair of beautiful breasts for her age. She should be between 42 and 45, has teenage children and strands of gray hair are already littering her head! Why would a married woman go about in that type of wear? Women please for God's sake, stop harassing men! Stop slaying them! Just stop this nauseating trash! A man is a visual being. He is moved by sight. Lots of women know this, they cash on it and wear just anything to make men lust after them. They do it deliberately to turn men on. They harrass men every where they go and come crying that men are seducing them, who is seducing who? Why would you expose your cleavage? On what bases would you go about in micro mini skirts? What are you trying to show when you go about in armless tops? You raise your arm all the time and we are confronted with your shaved or bushy armpit? Ye...