YOUR WEDDING & YOUR MARRIAGE.

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It is commonly said that most people prepare for wedding instead of planning for their marriage.

Your plan for your marriage and family should determine how your wedding should go.

FINANCE
"Owo se pataki o" meaning "money plays an important role in marriage"
Living a fake life during courtship will get you into trouble especially brothers. Don't present yourself to your fiancee like you have it all together. Be real.
Don't hire a car because you want to visit/impress your fiancee, I should add that sisters too shouldn't borrow fancy wears and accessories. Just be yourself.
Both of you, not the brother alone, should Declare your ASSET & LIABILITIES in courtship.
Be open about your income inside courtship.

In what way can fake life get you into trouble? If your fiancee doesn't know what you earn and you don't share your pains with her about your finances; there will be trouble for your wedding and marriage. She won't help you manage your resources and our demand will be high, we might buy goods worth your salary and ask you to pay. Your fiancee's budget for the wedding might even run you into debt.
Sisters, It is not enough to say your fiance works with Mike Adenuga or Dangote, how much does he earn? Plan your wedding and marriage based on what you can afford and trust God to bless and favour you.
Borrowing money for an elaborate wedding  is like committing suicide for no reason. People will start on your tail even during your honeymoon, save yourself from hypertension.

*If you want to lick the honey in your honeymoon; don't  borrow money to do your wedding*

Some times the sister has to speak for her fiance when her family brings up their exhorbitant wedding list of items. if you don't speak for your man then my advise to you is to keep your spoon in your luggage and get ready to soak garri after wedding ceremony.

PLACE OF WORSHIP
Thank God I never gave up my Purpose/ministry for an ungodly relationship if not, by now I should be worshipping where my spirit resists. Normally, the husband's church should be the place of worship but if the would-be wife doesn't agree or like the church...hmmm talk about it and agree on it. The genesis of a broken home is worshipping in different denomination. For instance, husband worship in Celestial Church of Christ and wife worship in Redeemed Christian Church of God. Decide and worship together, learn from the same altar to avoid confusion in your home, think about this and save your children from the task of choosing who to follow between mummy and daddy.

PLACE OF SETTLEMENT
"I am not living in your family house" angry bride cries. Why didn't you talk about this during courtship? The groom wants to live in Abeokuta or Canada, the bride wants to live in Sagamu. This is an issue to be discussed during courtship. The wife should be with her husband wherever he goes and that is why it is advisable to marry a man who receives directions from God definitely he won't drive you crazy.

NUMBER OF CHILDREN
A particular woman called in on a radio program and complained about her husband wanting more babies against their initial agreement and doctor's warning. (her fear was her state of health) It is right to talk about the number of children you want. You know what? God is the only one that gives children, He will give you as He pleases so there's no need quarelling about this. Please consider Nigeria or your country economy before you start this baby making factory.

I saw a woman with triplett yesterday and I am sure she didn't bargain for that. Laughs.

Conclusion
Ohteehem wants 3 kids and I want a football team (12 babies) disciples of Jesus. Let's see how God settles this between us. Laughs.

Enjoy your courtship on the way to your marriage.

#EstherOnMarriage

Esther Ebunoluwa Omoniyi
omoniyiesther1@gmail.com

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