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Hello ladies, I want to beg you, please, no matter how handsome a man looks and he strikes you blind with his handsomeness, please, don't fall to the ground and faint! Don't show it, don't hold your heart and scream "whaaaaoooooh!" like a woman suffering from mental illness. Men are quick to notice that and mark you immediately as cheap! Play boys love it though, he cashes on it, make himself semi scarce, you pursue him, he shows availability, land you in bed and disappears! Shouldn't you appreciate good looks? Please, do. Just look once and take your eyes away. Be friendly to everyone not just this guy in particular and stop roaming around him hoping he notices you. That's called desperation! Learn to look from the corner of your eyes. I can be looking straight yet describe you from head to toe! That's okay. When I meet men with stunning looks, I look once and take my eyes off. If he gets me weak, I disappear! If work or business brings us t...

It was so awkward and strange  when my course mate: a spirit filled, christian sister told me this about her fiance. We had been friends at school, we attended the same fellowship, she was a leader at the church.  She was engaged to a christian brother too, spirit filled and tongue talking. I have never met her fiancé for the length of our friendship. And I asked her one day, your fiance has never visited us here before. And she said ah! I can't allow him come over. I said why? And She said " the kind of life I lived before I gave my life over to Christ cannot afford me. I had sex just too severally that I couldn't control  my appetite then, I can't stay in a room with him alone for so long, I may ask for sex" I was thinking it was so strange then, but later I understood why. The body gets used to what you do frequently with it. And apart, our body react differently to things.  That someone is in courtship and visits his or her partner anytime and anywhere and...

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS* Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength. 2. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY* No one is an angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. So focus on the present and the future! 3. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES* Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shining marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day! 4. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS* Don’t compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front an...

"Oh baby, I love you..." I'd ooze with emotion to my lover who would look at me with tenderness then wanders why in the name of God I didn't help when he needed it and I claim to love him with my very breathe... His love language isn't words of affirmation. Yup! Every man likes to be praised but If I love him as I claim, I should bend down and assist him whenever he needs my support. Act of service and quality time are hubby's love languages. Well, that's not my love language. Whenever hubby says "you are great", "you are sexy", "you've got a beautiful body", "you are a virtuous woman", "you are so smart and intelligent", I always travel to the orbit and stay in bliss for many hours. Act of service? No! Before we fully understood each other's love language, hubby was doing what most husbands in the world would not do to their wives yet I would not appreciate it. Why? it's just not my love la...

Why are you so scared of losing your partner? Why do you think no good man will marry you? Why are you scared of divorce? Why this nudging fear your husband will have an affair and leave you for someone else? Why are you scared some one snatch your fiance? Why are you terrified at the thought of another man sleeping with your wife? Deal with this fear! That fear is a sign something is wrong somewhere. No one gets afraid for nothing. Something is creating that fear, find out and and deal with it. If you are scared no good man will marry you, why do you think you are not good enough? What is creating low self esteem? Poor character? Work on your character. Lack of education/job? Get good education/job! Generational curses? Deal with it and restore your self esteem and confidence! Why this nudging fear your husband will have an affair? Have you been pushing.him out? Communication has gone down to zero? Your sex life has gone stale or you are plain sick and tired of the marriage and th...

Some men say they can never marry a lady who has had a child outside wedlock. They call them "Ajeku" and "After One" yet they are the same men who run after innocent girls, defile them and deny responsibility for the pregnancy. Some men have no shame! If you don't want a single mother, stick to your decision but what makes a woman a great wife is not whether she has had a child or not. Countless ladies have had abortions yet no child before wedding. They look so clean yet rotten inside. Women who chose to have the babies should be respected and honoured not for the mistakes they made but the courage they showed. They feared God and valued another life than commit murder and save their faces from shame. They are God fearing and compassionate. Two major qualities needed in a wife. I pity men who allow senseless ego make them miss God's perfect will for their lives. God doesn't use someone's past to pick a spouse for them, he looks at your future an...

It can be frustrating to live with a stubborn spouse who does not listen to simple correction! I've heard the lament of countless, frustrated, unhappy husbands: "my wife doesn't listen to me..." Many women have wept bitterly while narrating their ordeal: "he won't just listen to me. I am dying on the inside..." one woman narrated how she lost her husband to the cold hands of death. "I advised him not to be too close to my family because they are dangerous, now, he is dead!" Phew! Too late! How do you handle a stubborn spouse? How do you correct your erring fiancee? How can you make your spouse listen to you and stop walking on the path of destruction? 1. UNDERSTAND THEIR BACKGROUND: Our background makes us who we are today. It is not easy changing a habit that has grown up with you. It takes time, efforts, patience and endurance. It is not easy letting go of an old habit and acquiring a new one. When you understand the struggles your spouse ...