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These ears have heard some stupid statements like "A man can ask for sex in courtship, it is the woman that must learn to say NO!" That is rubbish! So a woman is not permitted to ask for sex and when she asks, do the guys say NO? They pounce on her, rape her silly and tell the world she seduced them! Nonsense! Rubbish!! Stupid fallacy!!! Why must a man ask for sex in courtship? Why must you open your mouth and ask for what belongs to your elders? Is your thinking so low, you must ask the poor lady to let you slap her father in the face by stealing sex from his daughter without paying her dowry? Has your self esteem gone so down that you stooped below every form of self dignity to ask for what is not yours and lose your respect before her forever? Why must you ask for sex in courtship, are you even born again at all? I don't understand how some so called Pastors, Bishop, Evangelists and self acclaimed Prophets will open their mouths wide and ask their fiancee for sex in ...

Laziness kills marriage · Suspicion kills marriage · Lack of trust kills marriage · Lack of mutual respect kills marriage · Unforgiveness kills marriage (Forgiveness is not optional but mandatory) · Arguments kills marriage · Keeping secrets from your spouse kills marriage · Every form of infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc) · Poor communication kills marriage . Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect. · Relating more with your parents than your spouse kills marriage · Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. · Nagging kills marriage · Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage · Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage · Being too independent minded kills marriage · Love for party, money and spending/partying kills marriage · Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents...

A lady informed me one day that she was coming to pay me a visit. I told her she's welcomed and that I would be expecting her. Then she said, 'I will be sleeping over o'. I replied no problem, that I will make arrangement with one of my fellowship sisters or my neighbour so she could put up with any of them for the night. She said she wouldn't like that. Then I asked to know what she wanted, she said she would like to stay in my room. I told her it won't be possible because I don't allow ladies pass the night in my room except they are in group of two, three, etc. in which case I will leave the room for them. She told me it doesn't matter now and that she's not having any ulterior motive; and that she will ensure nothing happens. I replied her and said, it really does matter. Number one reason is that I am representing Christ in my environment. Will Jesus be in the same room overnight with a lady He is not married to? Let assume nothing happened...

You mean your child is not doing well in school, and its getting at you really badly? Quite unfortunate! Isn't it? From years of experience as an educator a consultant; there are lots of seemingly harmless reasons why students don't do well in school. They look so simple and incapable of wrecking havoc; but that's exactly what they do. Parents often get confused not being able to readily 'cough out' reasons why their children are not doing well in school. The following are some of the reasons why your children are not doing well in school: 1. Your child goes late to school. 2. He doesn't do assignments as a custom. 3. Your child is a television addict (your television is his best friend) 4. You are always too quick to put up a defence for your child. 5. Your child is a spineless lazy bone. 6. You give all manner of excuses for your child's laxity. 7. You don't allow your child to face the consequences of not doing the right things. 8. You accept whatever...

When he was a little boy his uncle called him “Sparky”, after a comic-strip horse named Spark Plug. School was all but impossible for Sparky. He failed every subject in the eighth grade. He flunked physics in high school, getting a grade of zero. He also flunked Latin, algebra and English. And his record in sports wasn’t any better. Though he did manage to make the school’s golf team, he promptly lost the only important match of the season. Oh, there was a consolation match; he lost that too. Throughout his youth, Sparky was awkward socially. It wasn’t that the other students disliked him; it’s just that no one really cared all that much. In fact, Sparky was astonished if a classmate ever said hello to him outside of school hours. There’s no way to tell how he might have done at dating. He never once asked a girl out in high school. He was too afraid of being turned down… or perhaps laughed at. Sparky was a loser. He, his classmates...

Men are logical, women are emotional. This will create regular argument and ultimately divorce if you do not know how to handle your differences. Some battles in relationships are plain unnecessary and a pure waste of precious time and energy. Don't tell a man you don't feel like doing what he asks you to do. That simply doesn't make sense to him. Give him one or two points, he will think about it, weigh the pros and cons and give you concession if need be. For instance, don't tell a man you don't feel like saving some money, that's plain stupid! Are you a spend thrift or a waster? Rather tell him, you need to do some budget, plan where the money should go and keep the differences as savings. Don't quiz the hell out of a woman if she doesn't feel like talking. She must be going through some emotional turmoil. Just hold her hands or let her be if you are courting but if married, pull her into your arms and cuddle her, that's all she needs. When she ...

To young guys & young ladies who are about stepping into relationship adventure, please note this! It is not compulsory you must have an Ex. It is not an achievement that you have so many Exs before you will finally settle down to marry. Yes, situations & circumstances beyond you can cause such to happen, but when you begin to count 10 to 15 exs you dated and dropped because of your unbridled desire, sexual adventure, materialism or looking  for perfect guy/lady before you will  finally settle for one, it is a bad sign.   The way some boast of this 'my ex, my exs, all my exs, they make it look like, you must have serial of broken relationship before you can finally settle down in marriage. It is possible to be in love with just one lady/one guy and you both build a solid courtship and end up marrying each other. Don't let many guys/ ladies refer to you alone as their ex.  I just feel like telling you this. Accumulating Exs as if you are accumulating...

Friends, there are things we must carry and handle with extra- carefulness, because these things are fragile. Once broken, it is not easy to put back together, and once some of these things get broken, they can lead to huge damage, and destiny wastage. Let me mention 8 of those things you must carry/handle with carefulness, as if you are carrying a crate of eggs. 1. _Your Name:_ Your name is very important and fragile. There are names that stinks in the ears of people, simply because those who bear those names spoilt the name. The way to handle your name with carefulness,​ is to be careful of your doings. Your actions can rubbish your name. A good name can open doors for you, & for your children and generations after you. Carry your name with carefulness. It is a huge asset. Read one of the quotes written by *_Shakespeare_*: _'Who steals my purse steals trash; 'tis something, nothing;_ _'Twas mine, 'tis his, and has been slave to thousands;_ ...

Two people shouldn't be insane at thesame time. When one loses his senses the other should keep his/her head, that is the way God designed relationships. If two mad people live under the same roof, the roof will soon be gone because they will be burn it to ashes! If you are cold, marry someone who is hot and vice versa. Don't marry someone who tries to change you. Your real nature, temperament, core person can never be changed. If you marry someone who has the same strengths and weaknesses as you, they will see you as a threat, fight for your audience, abuse, criticize, judge and condemn you in order to tame you and eventually kick you out of their lives. Marrying your opposite helps you admire their strengths and have compassion for their weaknesses. When you marry someone who is strong where you are weak and weak where you are strong, you will admire, help and chase each other forever! I will at this point recommend Tim Lahaye's book: OPPOSITES ATTRACT, it will help a...

He nudged my spirit and changed my life totally. I fell inlove with Jewel in my first year in the University. We met through a friend who accommodated me on my admission. He was a dark and handsome guy, I think his cheerful and jovial nature drew my heart to him. He was a Christian but I can't call him a born again. He proposed relationship to me and being my only friend and the only person I had in my new school I accepted his hands of friendship and we started dating like a year after. Mind you, I didn't pray to know God's will. It was dating. Of course, he couldn't have proposed marriage at the time because we just started our journey in the University. Our relationship was very interesting. So I thought. He was a very brilliant guy. He studied Law while I studied Political Science. We didn't joke with our studies at all, we played and studied together. We were always celebrating our success after each semester. It was fun and it appeared as if we were made t...

Smart ladies don't enter relationships with their hearts, they enter with their heads. If you are too emotional, you will become a football in the hand of playboys! So many ladies are broken, battered and shattered by agents of satan they call lovers because they keep their brains in their purse while entering the relationship and get burnt forever! if you give your heart to the wrong man too soon, he will shatter you and blame you for being so stupid! Start your relationships on logic not emotion! Enter with your head not your heart. Be inquisitive. Spend the few months getting to know the guy instead of declaring the love that does not yet exist. Know how to answer and ask questions. Never be naive with a man. Until you trust him, never tell him you love him, he will play with your emotions, get your back on the ground and tell the world you seduced him. Godly men exist but how will you know he is godly if you don't open your ears, eyes and brain? Some men are scared of...

Some fights in marriage are complete waste of precious time and energy. The way some couples argue, bicker, shriek, scream, throw tantrum or even keep malice over very minor things is appalling! For God's sake, let's grow up. Marriage is not for Tom and Jerry please. It is not a game of two toddlers, it is for a mature man and women. All these mummy's boys and daddy's girls rushing into marriage because they are too lazy to make their lives work are marital disasters going some where to happen! You should be a master of 1 Cor 13 vs 4-8 if you want to experience heaven on earth in your marriage. To marry and be stubborn, selfish, proud, malicious, revengeful, bitter, arrogant, judgmental, bitterly critical, uncontrollable and un submissive is to land very very fast in the divorce court! Better not marry than experience the heart wrenching pain of divorce! Please grow up. You lose nothing as a woman if you use "sir" for your husband, obey him and do the thing...

They may appear fully grown with heavy beard and moustache but are babies at heart. One area this men seriously need to grow up is their emotions. They are perfect masters at keeping malice and taking revenge. They do not know how to lead their wives by example and are everything a woman wants to disrespect. You don't keep malice with your wife for any reason under heaven! You are a man for God's sake. If your wife is acting childish, you should act mature and show her how to behave by your pratical, shinning, example! A mature husband is not bitter and revengeful! He doesn't pay tit for tat. He doesn't reject the food his wife serves because he is angry. He doesn't report his wife to his father and every single person he meets on the road! He doesn't whine and complain over trivial, insignificant things! He is in full control of his feelings and emotions. He doesn't allow his wife's negative attitude affect him. He keeps his head above the waters....

Yes, you discover your purpose through your gift, passion, talent, abilities and calling -that is a knowing in your spirit that this is what God wants you to do. You see, God did not create you to labour at what you hate. He wants you to do things that comes natural to you and gives you fulfilment. What is your greatest gift? What do you have flair for? What's your natural ability? What set of people do you have compassion for? Start developing your self in that area. If you love singing and wants to be a great singer, go for voice training. You want to be a great writer, start writing. You won't be perfect at first. Take a book and write whatever comes to your mind, with time your writing becomes better. You want to be a business tycoon? Start small. Sell from where you are, don't wait till you have a big shop or a large office. Sell from your house, school or corner and with time it becomes an international conglomerate. You want to be an actor/actress, media person o...

It's great being a woman. I'm glad I'm not a man. No, men are great, women are great. I'm just happy I came here as a womb-man, it's been fantastic all the way! You can be a great woman. A woman filled with purpose, passion and strong self esteem. You can be a force to be reckoned with -a world shaker, a phenomenon, an enigma, a leader, a wealth commander, a business tycoon, a great writer, speaker, preacher, wife and mother. With God, nothing is impossible! To start with. You've got to have a purpose for your existence. Why are you here? To marry, have children, grand children and then die? Come on, life is more than that or else God wouldn't create you so uniquely. Some ladies only dream of marrying a rich man who builds them a big house, buys them a fashion car and one with whom they have fabulous kids. No! Life is more than that! You need to ask yourself this question. "Why I'm I here? Why did God create me? What's my purpose for existe...

Pornography is demonic! It is acted by demon possessed, low thinking human beings who are desperate to make money. Porn stars are whores! The male actors are visionless, goaless loafers who have nothing else to do except trade their reproductive organs for a few hundred or even million dollars! Nollywood has joined them. Most of the actors and actresses are the desperate ones looking for a break and are ready to let go of every single human dignity they have to become stars! For popular actors and actresses involved, of course, they do not have good marriages! Which man wants to stay faithful and committed to a whore? The demon of lust haunts them all their lives, no single partner can satisfy them. You keep hearing stories of adultery left, right and center! The marriage eventually goes into the dustbin. There is power in what you see! You watch pornography to your own peril! These demons jump on you through the screen and may the good Lord have mercy on you soon afterwards. Mastur...