THE BATTLE OF EGO!

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Some fights in marriage are complete waste of precious time and energy. The way some couples argue, bicker, shriek, scream, throw tantrum or even keep malice over very minor things is appalling! For God's sake, let's grow up. Marriage is not for Tom and Jerry please. It is not a game of two toddlers, it is for a mature man and women. All these mummy's boys and daddy's girls rushing into marriage because they are too lazy to make their lives work are marital disasters going some where to happen!

You should be a master of 1 Cor 13 vs 4-8 if you want to experience heaven on earth in your marriage. To marry and be stubborn, selfish, proud, malicious, revengeful, bitter, arrogant, judgmental, bitterly critical, uncontrollable and un submissive is to land very very fast in the divorce court! Better not marry than experience the heart wrenching pain of divorce!

Please grow up. You lose nothing as a woman if you use "sir" for your husband, obey him and do the things he asks you to do unless it is sinful.

You will not lose your head as a man if you apologize to your wife any time you offend her. To be proud as a wife and rigid as  a husband is to make satan your ever present companion in marriage!

Learn to compromise for God's sake. Don't be stubborn! If you like your stew fried with coconut oil but hubby is a die hard fan of palm oil, both of you don't need to burn down your house in anger. Simply add half coconut oil and half palm oil, you both have your coconut oil and palm oil in your stew, case closed!

If one is a spend thrift, the other is a die hard saver, both of you should reach a compromise and agree on what to give and what to save.

If one likes sex two times in a day, the other prefers once in a week, learn to sit down and talk. You may do it once in a week for two weeks and twice in a day for the next two weeks.

If you prefer to scream and tear the night to pieces while praying but hubby prefers a quiet, serene environment for his beauty sleep, you may need to lock yourself in the store, or somewhere far away from your spouse where you will not disturb anyone.

There is no perfect marriage. The best of couples argue. You don't need to punch each other in the face while fighting. You don't need to scream, yell, abuse, curse, rave and rant, you are not a psychiatric patient please!

You don't need to involve all your family members to settle your differences. Just learn to listen to your spouse, learn to compromise, learn to shift ground and learn to meet your spouse half way, you will both respect each other for it and all the fight in your marriage will be a thing of the past. Enjoy Bliss Forever more....God bless you. Cheers!
©  Seun Oladele, 2017.

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