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You know there's a 'sincere' pleasure that emanates from sex, especially when the act is performed with somebody that you love, and not someone you are paid to have it with. Sex is something that not only transcends in the physical realm, but also in the spiritual realm. It is an established fact that a lot of us do have sexual urges (S.U), and they are just fine the way they are, in fact it is a sign that you are normal! I had a counselling session with a young man, and he open ed up and confided in me about his really ‘intense’ sexual urges,  which later led him into (pornography, masturbation, etc.)  in a bid to satisfy those urges, which is wrong by  the way .... And as a result of that, he th ought he was abnormal, because the whole thing i.e 'the feelings' were so intense for him. I had to assure him that the fact that he experienced all this S.U, only affirmed the fact that he was indeed normal, because this are things that God has put in us, so that at t...

Hello everyone.🙂 You know that quote below really got me thinking, because it spoke volumes to me.... You know sometimes we Christians are really guilty of this, we spend more time on our Businesses, our Families, and most especially for some, on our kids, and give the Remnant to God!!! Forgetting the fact that this same God is the one who has given us this time, this business, this family, etc. Some of us don't even have time for devotion anymore, or for some that can whisk away a few minutes, we spend stunted time in HIS presence so that when we are asked how many of us do have quiet time, we can also raise hands I read a quote, and it still touches me till tomorrow and it says 'G O D is for God and D O G is for Dog, so give the Best to God, and the Rest to the Dog! Don't you ever forget that there is NOTHING we have today that has not been given to us by God, yes I used WE, cause I'm also talking to myself here, I am not Exempted! Don't you also fo...

I've heard stuffs like, "don't check your husband's phone if you don't want to develop hypertension."  What is in that phone that you cannot check? Excuse me brother, what secret conversations are you having that your wife must not see or hear about? Who are you having secret chats with as a wife? Why are you deleting your chats, what is in the chat you are deleting? Emotional affair is every where! The moment you start having secret admiration for someone who is not your spouse, you are lusting and you need to deal with it. You can't carry fire in your bossom and not be burnt! The only solution to dealing with the affair is to block that person from your life. To keep talking to them with the false hope you will deal with the lust is to live in a fool's paradise. You will one day have sex with that person, GUARATEED! Flee youthful lust is what the Bible says, it!s not just for singles, it's for the married as well. There is one sure fire pr...

See, when a guy likes you, he likes you, if you call him 60 times per hour, your call gives him pleasure and he enjoys it. If a man doesn't like you, call him once in an hour, you are seriously disturbing him and wants you out of his way. The problem now is, most ladies are desperately running after guys who are simply not interested in them and make themselves cheaply available to him. If you want to learn how to handle a man, you learn from a man, not just a woman. That is why it is good to have opposite sex friends as singles, it will help you know how to handle your spouse in future! That question I asked guys on who they think a cheap/desperate lady is is very deliberate. Their responses are practical, though some went overboard. A wise woman will learn from those priceless information and work on her weaknesses! There is a difference between being friendly and CHASING a guy and a man knows when you are chasing him! If you treat that guy the same way you treat everyone and ...

It is commonly said that most people prepare for wedding instead of planning for their marriage. Your plan for your marriage and family should determine how your wedding should go. FINANCE "Owo se pataki o" meaning "money plays an important role in marriage" Living a fake life during courtship will get you into trouble especially brothers. Don't present yourself to your fiancee like you have it all together. Be real. Don't hire a car because you want to visit/impress your fiancee, I should add that sisters too shouldn't borrow fancy wears and accessories. Just be yourself. Both of you, not the brother alone, should Declare your ASSET & LIABILITIES in courtship. Be open about your income inside courtship. In what way can fake life get you into trouble? If your fiancee doesn't know what you earn and you don't share your pains with her about your finances; there will be trouble for your wedding and marriage. She won't help you manag...

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, “Do you know what I just heard about your friend?” “Hold on a minute,” Socrates replied. “Before telling me anything I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called the Triple Filter Test.” “Triple filter?” “That’s right,” Socrates continued. “Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?” “No,” the man said, “Actually I just heard about it and ...” “All right,” said Socrates. “So you don’t really know if it’s true or not. Now let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness...

A lot of girls today complain guys walk away from them simply bcus they refused having sex with them. While some are even tempted given away their virginity just to keep the guy. Let me be blunt here. Looking at it critically you will see that virginity may not be the real reason why guys walk away,it may not be sex either. The story of the ten virgins in the bible made us to understand dat both the wise and the foolish were virgin; the other five wer not allowed to see the bridegroom not bcus dey were virgin or dey lost their virginity. NO! But bcus they were foolish and called foolish bcus they had no EXTRA OIL And what is that EXTRA OIL if i may ask? The EXTRA OIL here is your CHARACTER or those things you can offer in a relationship apart from SEX, VIRGINITY AND PHYSICAL BEAUTY. Most girls don't have that EXTRA OIL to sustain them in any relationship, while some brag about virginity, that's all they gat to offer. Apart from virginity and sex what else can u offer t...

Young girl you are PRETTY, but i have to warn you not to loose your VIRGINITY. Don't allow what you see in your VICINITY break your wall of SECURITY. Your VIRGINITY is your DIGNITY and make it your No.1 PRIORITY, don't listen to those that call it lack of OPPORTUNITY. Don't allow the error of PROXIMITY lead you into IMMORALITY. Your friends call you MINORITY because you refused to join their PARTY of MAJORITY. They show off their body committing different ATROCITY and you are thinking of embracing their INSANITY. But listen to me! In God you have your true IDENTITY and you are covered with divine IMMUNITY. Leave them to PARTY in their IRASCIBILITY because in REALITY the end is CALAMITY. If you have lost your VIRGINITY already don't worry God can still give you a new IDENTITY! His DIVINITY will help your HUMANITY but you have to abstain from all IMMORALITY so you can get access into His beautiful CITY prepared by the GOD_ALMIGHTY🙌 #Copied ...

Hello ladies, I want to beg you, please, no matter how handsome a man looks and he strikes you blind with his handsomeness, please, don't fall to the ground and faint! Don't show it, don't hold your heart and scream "whaaaaoooooh!" like a woman suffering from mental illness. Men are quick to notice that and mark you immediately as cheap! Play boys love it though, he cashes on it, make himself semi scarce, you pursue him, he shows availability, land you in bed and disappears! Shouldn't you appreciate good looks? Please, do. Just look once and take your eyes away. Be friendly to everyone not just this guy in particular and stop roaming around him hoping he notices you. That's called desperation! Learn to look from the corner of your eyes. I can be looking straight yet describe you from head to toe! That's okay. When I meet men with stunning looks, I look once and take my eyes off. If he gets me weak, I disappear! If work or business brings us t...

It was so awkward and strange  when my course mate: a spirit filled, christian sister told me this about her fiance. We had been friends at school, we attended the same fellowship, she was a leader at the church.  She was engaged to a christian brother too, spirit filled and tongue talking. I have never met her fiancé for the length of our friendship. And I asked her one day, your fiance has never visited us here before. And she said ah! I can't allow him come over. I said why? And She said " the kind of life I lived before I gave my life over to Christ cannot afford me. I had sex just too severally that I couldn't control  my appetite then, I can't stay in a room with him alone for so long, I may ask for sex" I was thinking it was so strange then, but later I understood why. The body gets used to what you do frequently with it. And apart, our body react differently to things.  That someone is in courtship and visits his or her partner anytime and anywhere and...

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS* Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength. 2. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY* No one is an angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. So focus on the present and the future! 3. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES* Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shining marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day! 4. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS* Don’t compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front an...

"Oh baby, I love you..." I'd ooze with emotion to my lover who would look at me with tenderness then wanders why in the name of God I didn't help when he needed it and I claim to love him with my very breathe... His love language isn't words of affirmation. Yup! Every man likes to be praised but If I love him as I claim, I should bend down and assist him whenever he needs my support. Act of service and quality time are hubby's love languages. Well, that's not my love language. Whenever hubby says "you are great", "you are sexy", "you've got a beautiful body", "you are a virtuous woman", "you are so smart and intelligent", I always travel to the orbit and stay in bliss for many hours. Act of service? No! Before we fully understood each other's love language, hubby was doing what most husbands in the world would not do to their wives yet I would not appreciate it. Why? it's just not my love la...

Why are you so scared of losing your partner? Why do you think no good man will marry you? Why are you scared of divorce? Why this nudging fear your husband will have an affair and leave you for someone else? Why are you scared some one snatch your fiance? Why are you terrified at the thought of another man sleeping with your wife? Deal with this fear! That fear is a sign something is wrong somewhere. No one gets afraid for nothing. Something is creating that fear, find out and and deal with it. If you are scared no good man will marry you, why do you think you are not good enough? What is creating low self esteem? Poor character? Work on your character. Lack of education/job? Get good education/job! Generational curses? Deal with it and restore your self esteem and confidence! Why this nudging fear your husband will have an affair? Have you been pushing.him out? Communication has gone down to zero? Your sex life has gone stale or you are plain sick and tired of the marriage and th...

Some men say they can never marry a lady who has had a child outside wedlock. They call them "Ajeku" and "After One" yet they are the same men who run after innocent girls, defile them and deny responsibility for the pregnancy. Some men have no shame! If you don't want a single mother, stick to your decision but what makes a woman a great wife is not whether she has had a child or not. Countless ladies have had abortions yet no child before wedding. They look so clean yet rotten inside. Women who chose to have the babies should be respected and honoured not for the mistakes they made but the courage they showed. They feared God and valued another life than commit murder and save their faces from shame. They are God fearing and compassionate. Two major qualities needed in a wife. I pity men who allow senseless ego make them miss God's perfect will for their lives. God doesn't use someone's past to pick a spouse for them, he looks at your future an...

It can be frustrating to live with a stubborn spouse who does not listen to simple correction! I've heard the lament of countless, frustrated, unhappy husbands: "my wife doesn't listen to me..." Many women have wept bitterly while narrating their ordeal: "he won't just listen to me. I am dying on the inside..." one woman narrated how she lost her husband to the cold hands of death. "I advised him not to be too close to my family because they are dangerous, now, he is dead!" Phew! Too late! How do you handle a stubborn spouse? How do you correct your erring fiancee? How can you make your spouse listen to you and stop walking on the path of destruction? 1. UNDERSTAND THEIR BACKGROUND: Our background makes us who we are today. It is not easy changing a habit that has grown up with you. It takes time, efforts, patience and endurance. It is not easy letting go of an old habit and acquiring a new one. When you understand the struggles your spouse ...

One thing that you can do as a married man to bring your life to ruin and bring the anger of God on your life is to deny your family. You are married; but because you still want to enjoy night clubbing, side chic(side chickens), champagne with single girls and all other youthful frivolities, you are parading yourself online as a single guy.  You opened a Facebook account and you blocked your wife off it so that she won't know your activities here because you are making gullible ladies to think that you are a single man. Ladies that should look up to you as their role model. Ladies that should see you and your wife as a role model couple. Shame on you sir. Big shame on you.  I am fully married to a beautiful Queen and blessed with wonderful children by God's grace. Why should I deny this great assets God has blessed me with because I am drooling  over one lady with breasts and vagina. Nonsense! What do those girls have that I don't enjoy at home? How will I drag my marr...

Hello everyone🙂 Such a beautiful morning over here! and I pray that God makes your Life beautiful as this morning is In Jesus Name...Amen. I just want to make a little contribution regarding a post on my blog  'Defining Trust'. Having received a Constructive Criticism, regarding the post, I am convinced to share my convictions with you all. First of all, it is NEVER ok to lie to your Partner/Fiancee/Spouse etc no MATTER the MATTER! Lies are factors that destroys trust in any relationship, including a mother-child relationship. Lying in all its terms and ramifications is forbidden by the scriptures, Eph 4:25 (Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour...). So you see there is really no Excuse whatsoever to Lie friends. God bless us as we inculcate this in our lives In Jesus Name...Amen🙏 I love you all😘💟💟

Men under the spirit of lust are never satisfied by one woman. Women controlled by this spirit can't be satisfied sexually even if you go ten rounds! Single ladies possessed by this spirit have multiple sex partners. Men controlled by this demon jump from women to women, using them and dumping them like used tissue! You are under the spirit of lust if you are easily aroused at the thought of the opposite sex and no matter how hard you try to control it, you end up sleeping with them! You are operating under this evil spirit if you must sleep with a woman/man whether married or single before you become normal. Lust has captured you if you are no longer sexually satisfied by your wife or husband. Other people's wives/husbands or young single ladies/guys are now your objects of interest. If you are easily turned on by the opposite sex and you secretly yearn for different sexual experience with them, you are possessed by the spirit of lust. Lust is simply desiring or pursuing ...

I shared this with my friends and they all thought i was crazy, maybe, maybe not. Let me show you another dimension of trust, i hope you won't think am crazy too; One time in my relationship, i got so uncomfortable with the level of trust my partner has for me, it's amazing how she has so much confidence in the fact that am doing right by her whether she's there or not. I mean, she knows the kind of person i am, she knows how i naturally attract women to my side without making any effort, am that kind of brother that have a handful of male friends, the rest are just ladies who are always at my whatsapp, facebook, and coming at me with calls. Yet she trusted me with all of those female attention i was getting... Never for a second did she check my messages or read my chats, never for a day did she question who was calling me when we're together, never did she scroll through my phone and nag about how i have too many females contacts, she never ever did. She never answ...

Most of us grew up singing "Mummy in the kitchen cooking rice papapa! Daddy in the parlour watching film papapa! Children in the garden playing ball!" This goes to say there was a time when household chores was an exclusive work of women and taking care of the kids. The world changed and due to the advancement women have started working in the offices and further have proved their expertise in every field. Housework is not the only thing where women proved their worth. But still the household chores did not go away; they are still managed by the women in most houses. However, men have started realizing that helping their partner in the household chores will not endanger their manhood. Yes, doing house chores  doesn't make you less of a man. While growing up I always assign chores to my immediate younger brother deliberately. My mom raised him to sit in the room  while we labour for him to eat. On many occasions he would be watching TV, or praying in tongues and all ...

30 Things Husbands Want And Expect From Their Wives: 1. Go and slim down. Do not let people take you for our mother when indeed you are our wife. We love to see you exercise and eat less. 2. Mind and control your tongue. 3. Keep the house clean. 4. Be hospitable, how you receive our friends and families matter to us. Make them feel welcome by coming out to greet them, serve them water if there is no drink. 5. Dress neatly and smart always, look good for us. 6. Do not disrespect us, we want to feel respected even with our imperfections, correct us with respect. 7. Treat us like a king, make us feel important and we shall treat you back as our queens. 8. Do not always claim right. 9. Be polite always. 10. Be quick to say "I am sorry". 11. Do not delay us when we have to go out together. Start getting ready well ahead of time and don't keep us waiting because we can be very impatient. 12. We don't like tension, make us smile and laugh around you and we will w...

As a single guy/lady, you might find yourself confronted with these urges I want to mention. Being born again &having the life of Christ in you might reduce the intensity of some of these urges in you but once in a while, like your other fellow singles, you might find your self fighting the same urges. You must resist any of this urges with all your strength , with a determination and with the power of God inside of you.   1. Resist the urge to double-date: You might be in a relationship where it appears your partner is not serious or really committed. There is this urge you might feel to double-date. You may want to have an 'extra tyre' relationship with the hope that, if this one fails, you will just switch over to the 'extra-tyre' lady/guy. It is a dangerous thing to do. If your present relationship is not giving you needed peace and bliss, wisely quit the relationship. Get healed and move to another one. If you chase two rats at the same time, you might loose...

If everyone you see or know are somehow eligible for you to marry, then you can choose to marry anyone you want whether you like or love them. But not so in many cases. . When it comes to choosing who to marry, there are lots of confusion in the hearts of many as to knowing whom they ought to marry. . Several lies has been popularly promoted such as 'Marry your best friend', 'Marry in the Lord', 'Marry someone you can't live without' and so on. But are these ideologies truly right? . I have met people who married their best friend but overnight, they turned out to be their worst enemy. See, marriage has a way of either changing you for the best or making you worse. Many married in the Lord (church) but later found out that they are married to a devil in the attire of an angel. If marrying in the Lord was right, then all Christian marriages shouldn't end in divorce. But not so my dear! . The only person you can marry as a man is the person that w...

If couples will learn to stop blaming each other and take 100% responsibilities for their successes and failures in life, all marriages will be heaven on earth and there will be no single case of divorce recorded any where on earth! Irresponsibility is the leading cause of divorce world -wide. You screamed at your husband not because he abused you really but because you have issues with anger. No matter how angry you are with a  mad man with a sharp machete in hand, you will never challenged him to a duel, your anger automatically cools and you become rational immediately! That is a sign you can control your anger! You were mad at your husband not because of what he did really but because you lack control over your emotions, you lack self control. You lack, the ability to act rational in the face of pressure. Anger does not solve any problem, it only compounds it. Face this truth, deal with your personal issues and accept responsibility for your failures. You had an affair with ...

You can sweep a man off his feet through intelligent conversations. Men love intelligent and smart ladies. They love women who can think, are practical, logical and down to earth. One of the ways you can make a man fall in love with you is to discuss things that matters to life not the gossip you heard down the street. Exercise your brain. Be current with current happenings. Show practical interest in what he does. If the guy you admire is a sport fanatic, you will need to learn about sports and carry on intelligent conversation along that line and beyond. If he is a business guru, know about business. If he is a book freak, read good books and wow him with sensible, logical conversations. There is more to a marriage than cooking, having sex and raising children. A man wants a wife he can reason with. Someone he can introduce to friends and she won't make him hide his face once she opens her mouth. He wants a woman who is versed, knowledgeable, versatile, sharp and smart. How...