IT IS NOT A MUST TO HAVE AN EX:

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To young guys & young ladies who are about stepping into relationship adventure, please note this! It is not compulsory you must have an Ex. It is not an achievement that you have so many Exs before you will finally settle down to marry. Yes, situations & circumstances beyond you can cause such to happen, but when you begin to count 10 to 15 exs you dated and dropped because of your unbridled desire, sexual adventure, materialism or looking  for perfect guy/lady before you will  finally settle for one, it is a bad sign.  
The way some boast of this 'my ex, my exs, all my exs, they make it look like, you must have serial of broken relationship before you can finally settle down in marriage.
It is possible to be in love with just one lady/one guy and you both build a solid courtship and end up marrying each other. Don't let many guys/ ladies refer to you alone as their ex. 
I just feel like telling you this. Accumulating Exs as if you are accumulating  degrees is not an achievement. Look well before you leap. If you know you won't marry that person, stop sharing your love, emotion, affection,& body here and there. 

© Ebenezer Diyaolu

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